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“The Ten Most Dangerous
Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Men—
And What To Do About It...”
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why
Women Keep Themselves From Living
The Love Life Of Their Dreams—
And How To Make Sure You Avoid
Every One Of Them...
MISTAKE #1: Betting Your
Love Life On His “Potential”
Do you know any women who want the man
they're dating to behave differently?
Of course you do.
And just like me, I'm sure you have friends
who date guys who don't have much going for them
or who don't treat them very well.
Somehow these women always have an excuse
for the guy's shortcomings.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple.
Women (and men) don't base their choices of
men on how “nice” or “good” someone is to them day-to-day.
Women choose the men they do because they
feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Some women will continue to put up with a
guy that doesn't treat them very well.
Sometimes for months or years...
But why in the world would a woman do that!?
Well, to put it simply, they confuse the
strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper “connection”.
Women who do this are doomed to end up
in failed relationships with the “wrong” guys.
How do I know?
Because I've seen it at least a hundred
times...
And because I've been this guy in the past
myself.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships
I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much.
I'm amazed the women put up with me.
But they did...all the while hoping that
I would somehow change.
The women I dated hoped I'd change.
The only thing they saw in me that led
them to want to keep me around was the “potential”
they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate
with them.
The potential for something better and
the potential for me to change and be a better
lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever...
The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these
things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place
in my life where I knew how to or was interested
in developing a deep and committed relationship -
with ANYONE.
But deep down these women believed that if
they tried hard enough, that it would make up
for what was lacking.
They believed that I could become someone else
with them.... and that this would be easy for us
both.
Talk about a losing battle.
It doesn't make a lot of “logical” sense...
But until you accept that lots of women do
this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level,
you'll NEVER have the success with men that you
choose and want.
MISTAKE #2: Assuming You
“Get” Men & Their Psychology
Men are different from women.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly
pick apart certain things about his style, body
language, status and character that will tell her
all kinds of things about him.
Lot's of women don't even consciously see that
they do this because the process is so obvious and
simple for them.
But does the same apply for men?
As you probably already know, men are generally
more visual.
As a result, they often don't understand
non-verbal communication as well as women.
And men often lack what women have in emotional
awareness and “intuition”.
Women don't seem to remember this about men.
So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men
based just on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for years now,
and talking to thousands of men and women, I can
tell you that men have their “attraction mechanisms”
triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.
Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...
But looks are NOT the most powerful.
If you know how to use your body language AND
communication correctly, you can make men feel
the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to
you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great
looking guy that you got to know.
But it's not an accident.
You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY woman can learn how...
MISTAKE #3: Pretending To
Be Something For A Man
In the desire to please a man, women are
constantly doing things to get a man's attention,
to get him to like them or to make him more
attracted or in love with them.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Lots of women mistakenly think that doing
unusual things to try and get a guys attention
will make him magically see what a great catch
they are and want to be with them.
Wrong.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to
the types of women who kiss up to them, make
weak plays for affection or complain to get
what they want... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here. Things like being
sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his
feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine,
unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don't have to act like an “easy” woman
for men to like you, and you certainly don't have
to play like he's some gift to the Earth.
Doing these things actually works to subtly,
at an subconscious level, lower your social status
with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how
he sees you as a woman.
So if you think that making him more attracted
to you means “playing to the man's fantasies” from
the start, think again.
You'll never succeed by looking for a man's
approval, finding your way into his heart through
sex and not being yourself.
MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You
“Feel” Too Early With Him
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that
most women make with men is sharing how they
“feel” too early on.
Listen...
Attractive, single, successful men are rare.
They get a LOT of attention from women.
Most women don't realize this, but attractive men
are being approached in one way or another all the
time by women.
And guess what?
Attractive wen have usually dated a lot of women.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive men off
and sends him running away faster than just about
anything...
It's a woman who starts saying “You know, I really,
REALLY like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the man that you're just like
one of those “clingy” stereotype women who want
to rush into a relationship and can't control
yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and
complete their lives.
This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #5: Misreading The
Important “Signals” That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they
feel about a woman and giving away big secrets
about themselves.
Most women don't pay attention to these
signals or recognize them for what they really
are.
The signals men send have 4 main levels:
1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life -
stability, confidence, direction
2) Emotional: Whether or not he's “emotionally
available”
3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for
what reasons
4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing
a relationship in the future
The funny thing is that men send signals in
these areas completely on accident.
That's great news to women...
Men can't help it!
You need to learn to recognize these signals to
get anywhere serious with a man.
MISTAKE #6: Relying On
Your Natural Ability To
Judge A Man's Character
People aren't easy to figure out.
Especially men.
The last several years of my life I've
spent hundreds of hours learning to understand
people.
I've studied peoples behavior, “inner
psychology” and more specifically how they
think and act when they're dating.
From what I've seen, both men and women
have their own secret ways of saying things.
But you can only see these secret
communications if you know what to look for.
Women communicate with hints, body
language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're
first getting to know a man.
They can either directly or indirectly
let men know if they're open to something
more serious.
Men are different.
Men generally communicate with sarcasm,
humor, cockyness and other “indirect” displays
of status.
VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly
communicate to a woman whether or not he's
ready or capable of developing a meaningful
relationship.
Aside from their sexual interests, men
send very indirect signals about where they're
at.
If you don't know how to read through the
signals men send, then you'll get the wrong
message.
Getting the wrong messages from men causes
women more pain and heartache than any other
issue around.
You can avoid this pain if you learn to
indentify a good man from a bad one.
MISTAKE #7: Expecting A
Relationship To Make You Happy
A mistake I've seen women make is thinking
a guy will change her life and make her happy
and fulfilled.
And sure, there are situations and relationships
where this happens.
But those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Nothing says “Run!” to a man faster than
hearing or sensing that a woman immediately
wants him to take care of her.
And the men who ARE looking for this kind
of situation aren't exactly the most healthy,
loving, nurturing people out there.
Think, “controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!”
So let me be clear...
I think it's important that people help
fulfill each other in their lives, whether
it's dating, a relationship, whatever.
But if a woman communicates that she's
looking for a guy to take care of her, complete
her, make her whole, and all that kind of
stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what
the man will think of her.
It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman
either...
If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man
will see it and pick up on it, regardless.
This is arguably the worst thing a woman
can do early on when dating a man.
So what can you do as a woman?
You can get the man interested and involved
in your life in a more “natural” way, where
he'll be motivated to make you care about your
happiness and fulfillment on his own.
This is the only way it really works for
people - male or female.
Self-motivation is much stronger than external
motivation.
But you have to know how to create this situation
with a man... and it rarely happens by accident.
MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince”
Him To Like You Or Love You
What do most women do when they meet a man
that they REALLY like... but he's just not
that interested or isn't as serious?
Right! They try to “convince” the man to
feel differently.
Well, I have news for you...
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN “FEELS” WHEN
IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a man to feel differently
about you with “logic and reasoning”.
Think about it.
If a man doesn't “feel it” for you, how in
the world do you expect to change that by being
“reasonable” with him?
But we all do it.
Men are the worst at this by the way.
They're always complimenting women who
don't like them and buying them gifts.
Women like the behavior sometimes, but it
NEVER makes the woman like the man.
She might enjoy what she gets out of it,
but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him.
When a man just isn't interested, women
will try and chase, compliment, convince and
do their best to change his mind with logical
and rational approaches.
Bad idea. Another one that will never work.
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing
What To Do In Each Type Of Situation
A man has a clear idea of what he wants from
a woman...
And I don't mean just sex.
I know, it might be hard to believe, but
if you're out on a date with a man, he already
has an idea of what he wants from you.
And if you don't know HOW to find this out,
and you just sit there looking at him and flirting,
or trying things you think will make him want you,
he won't help!
If you don't know what to do in each situation,
you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This mistake keeps women from EVER having
the kind of success and finding the kind of
man and relationship that they truly want.
I know, you don't like to make yourself
look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask
for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me.
Over the last few years it's been hard to
watch the women around me (even those I dated)
struggle to understand the men they were
attracted to or dating.
It frustrated the hell out of me and I
made the decision to do whatever it took to
help the women I knew learn how to be successful
with men and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all
kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world
truth about men and women, I finally figured
things out for myself.
I've read hundreds of books on psychology,
human behavior, dating/relationship advice for
men and women, love, attraction, communication,
and more. The list goes on.
I can now approach just about any situation
with dating and feel confident and understand
everything that's going on in an interaction.
Best of all, I've been able to share my
knowledge and help women become more successful
with men and dating.
It's been a very rewarding experience, and
it's how I became fascinated with the female
perspective in the dating world.
I've helped women get rid of that sick,
insecure feeling... the one you get when you're
lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a
man you have feelings for says “he's not ready”.
You don't have to be afraid you might wind up
being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up
alone.
I Now Have A FREE Email Newsletter...
But the really great news is... after several years,
helping woman after woman, I now publish a free email newsletter that teaches
any woman how to DRAMATICALLY increase her success with men and dating.
I'd like to invite you to sign up.
It's free, there's no obligation, I'll never
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Of course, it even get's better than that...
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To sign up for my free newsletter AND download your copy of this online
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Oh, I Almost Forgot...
In this day and age of “instant gratification”,
I realize this might just sound like another
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Well, that's not the case.
I've spent a lot of time, effort, and energy
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I wanted to design and create a book that ANY
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I want to help you create an amazing relationship
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I now believe that ANY woman can be more
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And I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
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